Japanese Dating Interview

Don’t worry, this one has English subtitles. Which I needed, since at least half of the words I couldn’t make out at the second part.

Time to apply a little after action analysis.

There were 3 things that I noticed above all else:

1. The commonality of the word yasashi (kind, caring) and being tall. I suspect that being tall has to do with social recognition and approval, which is an important aspect in (any) relationship. It is more difficult maintaining a relationship that is in conflict with greater society, since it’s not just a Japanese thing that the nail that sticks out gets Hammered. The other part would be a more subtle factor, which is the feeling of safety and of being protected. It’s easier to look up to someone who is taller than you, as your protector. Height is one way to illustrate one’s personal or physical superiority. Bears and other animals stand up higher to appear more physically imposing, to make the other one back off. It works in a similar fashion if your partner or mate is taller than you, except it is now a socially supportive element. However, that means if a person is extremely good at the VIP escort and protection tasks, it might not matter to a woman that he is not taller than she is. Since the quality she was looking for, the ability to look up to a mate and trust in their power to protect them, out balances the height itself.

2. What one woman said she liked in a man, which is decisiveness, but the word she used was “to pull”. Meaning, a man who pulls along his girlfriend and takes her to new places or out of danger. They don’t get emotional, argue, or talk about a decision. They just choose one and pull you along with them. The reason I notice this is because I get the feeling from my sources, that college age indoctrination in the US is designed to make a woman distrust her partner or family, over trusting the bureaucracy or the government’s authority. That means orthodox or traditional male decisiveness, often is portrayed and received as chauvinism or patriarchal notions. Because the oral training has broken, many of the male behaviors tend to be rude or disrespectful and is labeled as chauvinism. This makes male indecisiveness, which isn’t liked either, but is tolerable since indecisive males tend to favor the status quo Leftist culture which abrogates loyalties and redistributes it to the Left. For example, in the case of college women who believe they were raped by their boyfriend while sleeping, once the boyfriend removes himself from the equation because she is freaking out, the school administration will take over and they will never be allowed to talk over their differences. It could be a minor thing as a dream or some conduct/expectation crisis that could be negotiated between the two. But so long as the woman feels that feminist power can only be wielded if she applies for public law and public power, that woman is essentially captured by the Left’s power and gravity well. The Left decides what constitutes intimacy and privacy between two individuals, the individuals with the most at stake don’t get a say, in any way. Even without it being an intentional case of maliciousness, like the Duke Lacrosse false rape case, enough damage can be done merely on a misunderstanding, once the LEft takes hold of a person’s soul. That’s why when a woman communicates the desire to be “led” by a male authority/protector in a private relationship, it continues to surprise me, for that is one of the ways to counteract status quo Supreme Social Authority tyrannies. I’m used to dealing with the legions of zombies the LEft produces.

3. Macho, the English word spelled in the Japanese alphabet. In the Japanese vernacular it means something like a strong man or an athlete that is visually muscled.

Conclusion: A very entertaining interview, done for the apparent purposes of making foreigners visiting Japan, understand more about courtship rituals.

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