Males and Females
The other eternal war via Fausta
I was reading the NYT this morning looking for blogging material while on the road and came across your article in the NY Times Styles Modern Love section, The House of No Personal Pronouns.
We have never met and will probably never meet, but it’s time someone took you by the hand and gave you some sound advice. I normally don’t give advice to strangers but recently I have come across a number of people (men and women) in situations comparable to yours. Two have confided in me. Believe me, you are not alone in your dilemma. There are many Adas out there.
Let me start by pointing out that you are in a long-term relationship. You may refer to your lover as “boyfriend” but after a year of this, recognize the fact that you are in a long-term relationship. Call him boyfriend, lover, paramour or whatever else.
The short version of my advice is this:
Leave him right now, cold turkey, permanently, and don’t ever go back to him.
That means getting up, walking away, throwing away the key to his house and changing the key to your place (maybe even moving to a new place of your own). Erase his phone number off your phones and block his calls.